You know that I LOVE to start my week with some positive words of wisdom:
You can read last week’s MMM here to catch up on the previous fear-inducing habits.
Fear-Inducing Habit#4: You misinterpret the information you have.
It is easy to take very few experiences – maybe just one – and start seeing evidence of something permanent and frightening in your life.
What to do instead:
Question your fears and what they are based upon. Again, sit down with that pen and a piece of paper. Think back to what evidence you have in your memories for a fear and a belief of yours. Try to see the situation(s) that created your fear with fresh eyes today. Instead of the way you may usually see them.
Doing this helps us to reduce our fear of business and social rejection. If you look back at some situations from your past that formed and fueled fear you may realize that:
You misinterpreted being rejected in some of those situations, or you were rejected because there was something wrong with what you did, but simply because you were not offering a realistic solution to the problem. Or because the other person had a bad day or because he or she simply wanted to push you down to feel better about himself or herself at that moment.
This will be an eye-opening experience that may help you understand that what went wrong is not all your fault. And that our memories can often be pretty inaccurate and unhelpful if not reexamined at a later time and our minds love to create patterns and conclusions based on very little evidence or few experiences.
Next week, I will focus on the error of pushing fear away.
Have a great week!
